When an event is over, exhaustion is a given. My hubby and I went to a family reunion a few states away this weekend. Well, sort of. We had to do a divide and conquer operation in order to accomplish more than one destination at once. He needed to pick up one grandson from camp while I took the other two with me to the family reunion. Construction zones on the highway were nerve racking since it was a holiday weekend and EVERYONE
was on the highway with us. Ugh! Frazzled and exhausted, we met with family we only get to see once a year or less.
We met at the reunion at an aunt's
house while he took a break from driving. The events were great, but the boys and I were cheering when we
saw the exit sign for home. Yay! Our backsides couldn't stand one-more-mile
in the van. Hubby helped me unload, then we crashed on the
couch. We looked at each other and said that we need to recover after
the holiday trips were over.
Are you feeling the same way? Whether you hosted a family gathering or just visited, everyone is usually pretty spent afterward. If you went on vacation, you probably have a ton of laundry and a whole check list of things to do when you get home. Why do we end up feeling that way? Did your cousin drive you nuts at the reunion? Did your neighbor's dog take off with your grilled meat? Did the kids get on your nerves on the way home? Sometimes, we overestimate ourselves and everyone else in the whole experience.
Here are some recovery tips for the nextbig event or trip:
- Talk afterward as a family about what went well and what didn't. What would you do differently that would have made your time better? Write it down.
- Expect people to be who they are, not who they aren't. Annoying Uncle Ned would be less annoying if you just accept him for who he is and troubleshoot ahead of time.
- Plan the event with flexibility. Construction zones are time killers. Relationship killers like a relative who damages a family heirloom when you host can be avoided by simply putting things like that out of sight during the event.
- Troubleshoot ahead of time. Do you really need to have things perfect or can you simplify to reduce the chances of irritation and disappointment?
- Pack less, enjoy more. Learn to streamline your packing or event set-up. What good is it to pack 20 pairs of shoes if you are stressing about the grumbles of your family? Pack multipurpose shoes and clothes, leave the rest at home.
- Eat less, talk more. Seriously, do we really need 5 pans of brownies or 3 pans of lasagna? Are you going to feel horrible when you go home to find you gained 10 pounds over the week you were away? Make memories by spending time with people, not the food.
- Set rules and guidelines to avoid disaster. I had to set rules to avoid getting gluten and allergens in my food from the boys' meals. What rules will be essential for smooth sailing? Write them down for the next time.
- Simplify your checklist, but include the essentials. My mother-in-law taught me to avoid headaches by keeping my to-do list simple. Simple reduces stress so you can enjoy more.
- Do something when you get home to de-stress. The luggage or dishes will wait until you feel calmer. If you de-stress by taking a walk or playing music, by all means, do it.
- Spread out what you need to do when you get home. If you have a job with a lot of hours or kids who need your attention, don't expect to get the laundry done, pick up the mail, write the bills, and mow the lawn in one day. Prioritize.
- Do your self-care when you get home. Get back to your exercise, healthy eating, and other routine needs to take care of yourself. Have the rest of the family do the same.
May God bless you!