When I work with clients for the first time, I need them to get on the scale so I see their body composition-- Fat to lean body mass. I also need them to let me get their measurements. Quite a few refuse to get on the scale and be measured until after they have lost some weight. Then when they hit their goals, they want to see how much they have lost. I can't show them the difference because they wouldn't step onto the scale that first day!
About half of these people do not reach their goals. Cheating on foods, too many fast food meals, and dislike of exercise submarine them. Of the ones who reach their goal, only a few keep it off. Why? Because those who don't succeed have negative messages running in their heads and they listen to them. "You're such an idiot, you can't possibly do anything right." "You will never amount to anything." and "Who do you think you are anyway?" are common. I hear these messages from my clients as we talk during training sessions. One of the ministries I seem to have is to tell people the truth. The majority of my work is actually training one's mind, before I can really train the body. We do this simultaneously, but the mindset is what determines the outcome.
If this sounds like you, here are some things that will help you change your mind so you can change your body:
- You can begin with what good friends and positive family members say about you. If you are surrounded by negative people and can't shake their negativity off, I recommend visiting your pastor or a licensed Christian counselor. He or she can help you find those truths within yourself. It's the most important step you can take.
- Knowing what our Creator says about you, one of His creation, will help you see that you are not a loser. He knows you best.
- Seeing small bits of progress shows you that you can succeed at something. If you have been overweight your entire life, this will be extremely important. Know the facts about weight loss and weight management can apply to you. Instead of saying, "I can't", you will be saying, "Yes, I can!"
- Sometimes we are surrounded by people who reflect what we believe about ourselves back to us. It will be hard, but you may have to distance yourself your harshest critics. Begin spending more time with people who make you feel good about yourself honestly.
- Posture reflects a good deal of what you believe about yourself. If you have the floor pattern memorized because you look down all the time, look forward to help yourself look forward to good things ahead for you.
- Can you see yourself at a healthy weight? Can you see yourself land that job, get married, or do the things you've always wanted to do? Having a positive mental picture helps you head that direction.
Over-confidence and arrogance will submarine you. This might sound like you should go back where you started, but it's not the intent. Working within the boundaries of your true skills, talents, and gifts will make a difference whether you achieve your goals. Focus there.
There also may be some limitations you have to accept. For example, someone with Hashimoto's disease will always be overweight. The question would be how much of one's weight can be controlled within the scope of the illness. Someone who isn't able to earn very much of an income may find it difficult to buy a house or take a dream trip without going to school again to land a better job. The fact is that there are ceilings and boundaries we must consider as we make goals in order to proceed forward.
Once you have come up with truthful, realistic goals, there is so much you can accomplish. Being happy and having a greater sense of value is important for your mental, physical, social and spiritual well being. Forward, ho!
May God bless you!
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