Christmas is a wonderful time of the year for most of us. But for others it can either be a downer or a groaner. All the twinkling lights and Christmas displays can't fix the problem. Dreariness compounds the blues.
Singing the Christmas blues? Here are few some things you can do:
Gathering debt to give gifts is like robbing Peter to pay Paul. According to the Bible the borrower is slave to the lender. If you are incurring debt and not giving, you are cheating God and yourself. Everything we have belongs to Him.
Prep for next Christmas. Decide on a budget by how much you would spend on each person or couple. Save back a monthly amount by dividing your total by 11 because month 12 is when you spend it.
Holidays are tough when you've lost someone you love. Depression sets it's cold fingers into your heart. Don't let that stay this way.
Lose a loved one? Find comfort in the company of friends and relatives for the season. You will need to cry, so do. Go through pictures from past Christmases and give God the glory for the fantastic blessings God gave you with your spouse, significant other, parent, or child.
If you’ve lost a child before or during birth, you don’t have memories. But you can think through what it would have been like to spend this Christmas with your child. Savor that. Do know that your child has the ultimate Christmas with our Heavenly Father? Whatever you do, get out and see lights, go to concerts, whatever helps boost your mood.
Offspring sprung the nest?
Suddenly all is quiet! Enjoy the times when you do get together, but don’t monopolize their time on the holiday. They are officially adults now. Let them develop their own traditions. You can develop new ones. Get out with friends and family, go to concerts, see lights. It is good for them to become productive adults in society. You will be fine!
No money, no gifts, no problem!
Don’t think that just because you can’t buy a gift that you have nothing to give. Send free e-cards from places like Crosscards.com and Dayspring.com. Give the gift of something like massages to your spouse, take your honey’s car for an oil change or car wash, do the dishes for your sweetie, spend special time with your child doing something he or she would like to do with you, make a gift from things you have. There are a lot of ideas on Pinterest.com. There are tons of ways, so be creative. Nothing says you have to spend money to have a great Christmas!
The Oops, I ate too much blues can get the better of some people.
Focus on the time spent with people. Go to a party after most of the food is gone, or leave early. If these aren’t possible, resolve to behave after the holidays are done and stick too it!
If your holiday threads don't fit now, pick up something that fits and makes you look good. Take a friend because you probably won't be objective about it.
Family members usually don’t set out to be annoying. It just happens.
Learn to say, “Oh, that’s Aunt Susie for you.” for the things that aren’t damaging. Sibling rivalry should have died when you became adults, but it is alive and well.
Let the maturity begin with you. Let remarks slide. When your sister-in-law boasts about her kids achievements, direct the praise to the child. Spend time with others. Share what your kids have done with people who truly care.
Whether at work or family gatherings, it’s a problem. There is safety in numbers.
Stick with people who support you. Have them either run interference politely or simply keep themselves between you and Creepy Harry.
If it’s too bad, confront directly by saying in front of your friends, “You know, you are creeping me out by following me. Please, leave me alone.”
If they follow you when you leave the party, you may need to call 911.
Co-worker at company party? Follow the sexual harassment guidelines at your workplace. You may not be popular, but you will feel better being safer this way.
Have a wonderful Christmas anyway. After all, it’s all about Jesus. Focus on His birthday. May God bless you abundantly!