October 18 is Sweetest Day this year. Some people celebrate it as much as Valentine's Day, yet others ignore it all together considering it a "Hallmark Holiday", i.e. card and gift companies have another way to make money. It began in Cleveland by a philanthropist who sent boxes of candy to newsboys, orphans, elderly and the poor. It was promoted by candy companies in the Cleveland Plain Dealer in 1921. Since then, it is more of a regional celebration. 1 Regardless of whether you celebrate it or not, being sweet on your Sweetie is is a year around thing.
You don't need, and probably shouldn't, give your Sweetie a box of sweets. Whether you are beginning to or already are living a healthy lifestyle, there are some wonderful ways to indulge your dearest. Surprise each other with a gift that doesn't bust your wallet. Send mini-messages of how much, or why, you love your spouse/special someone. Decorate your mirror with love notes so when your other half gets up in the morning, they are pleasantly greeted during his/her morning routine. Make their favorite coffee or cappuccino, even if you hate it. Take off with his or her car to have it cleaned inside and out, then leave a card on the dash when you return it. The gifts are endless!
Expressions of love and affection in gratitude for the special person God has brought your way are the best thing you can do. After several years of married life, it may be easier to write down all the ways he/she irritates you. Instead, begin with using "Please" and "Thank you". Simple common courtesies we use with everyone else should be used with each other more. Giving a hug and kiss to each other as you begin and end your day can melt a heart. Communicating clearly and listening more will help you understand each other and appreciate each other more. Be the first to apologize when you've goofed up and hurt each other. This person is, or should be, the love of your life!
The couple who plays together stays together! Find fun and interesting things to do together. My first husband and I loved music together. He was more technical, while I was more artistic with it, but we enjoyed it together. My new husband and I love to bike together and site see. Your orbits have to intersect somewhere! Work out together, even if you like to do different things. You don't have to be side by side, just supporting each other makes a world of difference. Remember that you are offering yourself to each other; what gift are you giving each other? By the way, if you are dating or engaged, save that gift for your wedding night! You have to rest of your lives to enjoy each other as God intended.
Nothing says, "I love you!" more than to support each other's goals and interests, even if they aren't your own. Does he love to golf or read, but you don't? It's okay. You can support him by allowing the time to be available for his interests. Does she love art or cooking? You can support him/her by noticing their discoveries and successes. My husband loves aviation, so I am studying to become a pilot too. Will I love aviation, too? Probably not as much as I love seeing him glow when he gets into his plane to fly! Does he have the same love for fitness as I do? No, but he works out for his own needs and supports me in what I do. Want to water the garden at home? Support the things your spouse/special someone loves!
Pray and study God's Word together. It is hard to stay mad at each other when you pray together about the situation and for each other. How amazing when God gives you what you need in your devotions and Bible study time together. My first husband and I discovered this early in our marriage, continuing until he went home to be with the Lord. My new husband and I do this every night before bed. Test it out!
Passages to read:
I Corinthians 13
Song of Solomon
I Samuel 25:38-42
I Corinthians 7
There are a lot more, but this gives you a start. You can also find devotions for couples through several Bible apps on your phone, tablet, or other device such as You Version Bible by LifeChurch.tv among many others.
May God bless you both!
Sites to see:
Focus on the Family http://www.focusonthefamily.com/marriage.aspx
Celebrate Your Marriage http://www.jayandlaura.com/category/the-latest-from-jay-and-laura/