"Jack Spratt could eat no fat, his wife could eat no lean. So, then, betwixt them both they licked the platter clean." goes and old nursery rhyme. My husband and I recently visited my mom and took her out to dinner. He commented, "She can eat twice as much as I do and lose weight. I eat half as much as she does and GAIN weight. I hate that!' If you are new to my blog posts, visit My Story to see that I have struggled with being overweight before. In some of my previous posts I have shared with my readers that I struggle with keeping my weight up now as a result of celiac disease and food allergies. My husband is a runner whose wings have been clipped due to an issue that causes quite a bit of pain when he runs. He watches what he eats but can't seem to get the last little bit off to reach his goal weight. I really think he exaggerates a lot!
Have you ever felt like that with a friend or spouse? Have you looked in the mirror and said, "Where did THAT come from!?!? It's not fair!" Once upon a time, you felt great, could wear what you wanted, and ate what you wanted? Suddenly, out of nowhere you discover something --- THAT. You know what I'm talking about. The love handles, a muffin top, bulges where you don't want them, where did they come from? Now you find jeans with spandex have to be in an x-large through 3x or you won't touch them. Baggy clothes are your friend and eating at the next barbeque at your friend's house will push the scales way past "Acceptable". Then you look over at your partner and wonder why he/she looks great and can still eat anything and everything. Friend, take heart because you aren't alone.
I have a theory: there is only so much matter in the universe. So, if that's the case, when someone close to you loses weight it goes straight to you! Not only that, a few people you don't even know send their 5 pounds to you as a bonus! Go ahead and ask a physicist about this, but you may learn more than you want and that my theory is absolutely ridiculous. But the theory sounds plausible in my estimation. So where did THAT come from?
Life happens to everyone. We get up before the sunrises and come home from work after sundown, exhausted. We get busy, our budgets are tight so we buy cheap and easy food, then we get together with friends and family to kick back and relax. Maybe some kids came into the picture and your old jeans went to Goodwill. Preggy cravings are pretty strong. How hungry a mom-to-be (and dad-to-be in his sympathy) can get! Goodies show up in the breakroom and you've just gotta try one-- then three goodies later, you have remorse. Can we rewind time back to when we felt great, wear what we wanted and eat what we wanted? No, but there are ways to turn lemons into lemonade. Not all is lost!
Since we have a "divided" household (metabolically speaking), these things might be helpful to you:
1) Thicker one, don't try to be like the thin one. Thin one, don't get your thicker friend to eat what you eat. It doesn't work! Criticism causes pain and heartache. The comparisons need to disappear.
2)God created each person uniquely. Ectomorphs struggle with keeping weight up and building muscle, while Endomorphs struggle to burn fat to stay lean. Mesomorphs seem to have the perfect bodybuild, which is a very small number of people. Genetics play a part in how you are built. (see the article Ectomorph, Endomorph, and Mesomorph-- What is your Body Type? on Men's Fitness)
3) Take a realistic inventory of your own issues. Is it reasonable to try to be like you were 10-20-30 years ago? By evaluating your goals and problem's sources, you can tackle it and gain control of your health again. Join e in the First Place 4 Health groups beginning in September.
4) When eating together, eat healthy but eat different portion sizes. I cook healthy meals that are packed with nutrition and low on calories. He eats smaller amounts than I do. One of you may need some different things added or deleted to each get what you need.
5) When you exercise together, realize that your workouts may need to be a bit different in type and length of time. We bike ride together, but we also have an elliptical we use. I don't do crazy workouts for myself since it will cause my metabolism to spike. He does more time with more resistance added to get a better burn. You can enjoy working out together if you understand you each have different needs.
God has blessed you with each other and with a full life. You need the love and support that each of you can give each other. Your differences are your strength. You can meet your goals individual goals together. May God bless you!