Yes, this is a filler until I get the other 2 posts done! But it was weighing on my mind the other day, so I would like to encourage those of you who are skinny and enlighten those who are not.
Everyone seems to think that skinny people have it good. They can eat whatever they want. They don't have to exercise because they look great. All the clothes they try on look good on them. Oh, to be skinny! But is it true? Not!!!
I was with my husband talking to a friend at church the other day. The person commented that I looked great and my muscles looked toned. Shocked, I let them know that I hadn't been feeling well after all the travel we've had so working out hadn't worked out all that well for me. But I thanked them for their kindness. I know, you are probably saying, "Shut up, Char! Just say thank you!" You are right; however, it was bothering me that I wasn't where I wanted to be and someone made an assumption that I looked good and toned since I was skinny. Remember, I haven't always been thin. My thinness now, even though I eat healthy and exercise regularly, is due to celiac disease and food allergies. An autoimmune disease steps up the metabolism. I have to tell you, I sure get a lot colder now than I used to! This scenario isn't an uncommon thing, truthfully.
Getting the evil eye from someone overweight or a snide comment from a large person hurts, too. If calling someone fat is an insult, then derogatory comments to a thin person is an insult, too. More often than not, a jealousy factor is behind it. Don't sweat it. Smile and find something kind to say that you notice about the individual. It disarms them and gets their focus on something positive about themselves. They hurt and have tried to use you as a target of their pain. Disarming, truthful comments to the positive deflects those fiery arrows.
Finding clothes that fit is challenging. A couple of my friends shop the Juniors department. Unfortunately many of those clothes aren't cut quite right for someone past 30. Most of the clothes in the discount stores start at size 6. Forget Walmart! That's a problem if you are a size 2. Shopping has to be directed toward factory outlet stores, Target, and some others in order to find clothing that fits right and looks age appropriate.
Some of my friends, family, and colleagues are gracious even though it begins to grate on them when someone says that they can eat whatever they want and not gain any weight. No, not a tru-ism. Those thin people have to eat healthy, too. Eating the Red Robin heart attack special will cause heart disease and atherosclerosis for us, too. Eating too many treats at Dunkin Donuts will eventually lead to Type 2 Diabetes. Exercise is important for the health aspect, too. In fact, strength training can add a bit of shape and curve for skinny people. Reality is, we can treat ourselves here and there, but we have to eat healthy and exercise for our health, too. It just looks a bit different.
Here are some things for you that your thicker counterparts don't need in the same manner:
May God bless you!