This is the time of year when several couples decide to tie the knot, get hitched, take the plunge. Some are ready for the alter while others still have the dazzle of the diamond in their eyes. One thing is for sure: "Love is in the air!"
My own wedding is coming this Saturday. Nerves are sensitive, to do lists keep growing, and my dress HAS to fit. Since I'm working freelance, I'm not running around in a gym 6-8 hours a day, five days a week. Even though I work out, my body is not where I am used to having it. Why didn't I get the one with the laced-up back??? When I tried on my dress last month, I decided that I have to alter my body
and not the dress! Easier said than done, though. Stress causes me to crave chocolate and carbs. I only allow myself a little because if I don't, I will eat just about everything until I get it. So I ration it. Running errands takes quite a bit of my time, keeping me up until really late at night. Brides, I feel along with you! Brides-to-be, take note! Mothers of the brides, be aware! Maids-of-honors & bridesmaids, you will feel this with the bride you attend! What have I learned that might help you with all of this?
Tips for Brides, Mothers, & Attendants
- Get enough sleep! Zzzzzz Getting your beauty sleep is
essential. It keeps your brain functioning well. It re-balances your
cortisol levels and helps you keep your weight under control. Besides,
it's not called beauty sleep for nothing! You will be more radiant and
beautiful without the dark circles and stress lines. See The Value of
- Keep things in perspective Set a budget and
stick to it. Nothing stresses couples more than to have money fights.
When you add parents, stress multiplies. Don't let the bridal industry
talk you into everything under the sun. This could rack up $50,000-
$70.000 easy if you let them. Decide what you really need, keeping the
groom and families in the loop. Put your foot down graciously when
needed. The day belongs to you and your hubby-to-be!
- Pick your battles Mothers and
bridesmaids tend to escalate stress. They don't mean to, really. There
are a lot of helps with The Knot, Weddingwire.com, Brides.com, and
several bridal magazines. I won't try to give all of that to you here.
Just know what is important to the two of you. Be kind and treat
others the way you would want to be treated if you were them. Love
covers a multitude of sins!
- Choose the right dress. A
lot of white makes EVERY bride look big! Designers know this. Try on
several early on in the process at more than one store. I did that and
then went to a consignment shop. Know what you like, stay in budget and
you will glow!
- Eat healthy, unprocessed foods It is
easy to grab food on the run, but don't. You will feel bad! Find
healthy choices that don't bloat you and cause irritation. You can also
maintain or lose weight for your big day. It is something best adopted
now and continued for years to come. See Mistakes Healthy People Make and Work/School Day Binge Reducers.
- Get your exercise So many brides try
to get the gym bod in 4-6 weeks at Bridal Bootcamp. Then they are so
sore and discouraged. Hire a trainer for a few sessions who will
consider your needs and current fitness level. Find out if you can get
discounts for the wedding party or if your groom will come with you.
Many will give great discounts for 4 or more. I will give the bride her
training free if she has 3 or more maids join her for her workout
sessions (group training of 4 or more). For the bride and groom
together, I will give 1/2 off for the groom's cost if he joins his bride
in the workout session. Promo code: WEDDINGBELLS
- Delegate That is why you have a maid or matron-of-honor. It
is literally in the job description. Check Real Simple's website in
the Wedding Checklist section. There is a job description there. Make
sure these ladies know it's not just looking cute! Give them tasks they
can handle and consider their busy-ness level, too. Sharing the load is a
lot more fun anyway!
- Invest your time and attention to the marriage Cinderella
and Prince Charming lived happily ever after--Right? Not without time
and attention to the life together after the "I do"s. This isn't about
trying to throw a bash of the rich and famous as the poor and common!
Too many couples get caught up in the hoopla and look forward to the
"Ooh, La, La!" Take time with pre-marital counseling and pay attention
to concerns that crop up. Those concerns will haunt you in the years to
come if you don't. For re-marriages, be willing to invest in a bit of
counseling afterward too. This will help reduce your chances of seeking
out a divorce lawyer. Remember this: the higher the amount spent on
the wedding, the more likely the couple will end up divorced. Just ask
wedding planners about that one.
- Know that at the end of the day you will be married My
fiance' keeps reminding me this when I am stressed about details. He
is right. No matter what happens, you will be married to the love of
your life! It is all in the perspective. God bless you both!