The holiday season is usually a great time of the year to spend with family and friends. But for some, it can be the most difficult time of the year emotionally whether it be the loss of a loved one, divorce, a new place to live, empty-nest or loss of a job. The year my husband died from cancer was very challenging for me. I had well-wishers tell me just how horrible it would be and how I should feel or what I should do.It was overwhelming, depressing and absolutely annoying. If I had listened to them, I could imagine feeling suicidal! But instead I chose to keep Thanksgiving and Christmas on an upbeat.How down you get is actually up to you, even though a bit of the blues may be inevitable for the circumstances.
Here are some things I did and other ideas that may be a mood-booster for you:
1. Determine to enjoy the season. Find beauty of the season among the ashes of your slump. Look for things that make you smile or feel hopeful.
2. Decorate for Christmas anyway. Even if you don't feel like it, get out just a few of your favorite decorations to cheer up your home.
3. Enjoy the memories through the tears. Looking over pictures that mean a lot to you and allow yourself to cry. Tears help wash away pain. Then put them away and find something upbeat that usually lifts your mood.
4. Get out and be among friends or go to the mall to watch people.
5. Find light and holiday displays in your area and go. If you can, take a friend.
6. Aromas can also be mood-boosting like apples & cinnamon, coffee, or some aromatherapy scents that you like. Candles or air freshening items are easy to do.
7. Spend time helping through a charitable ministry such as Operation Christmas Child or Angel Tree. Helping someone else takes the focus off ourselves and our feelings.
8. Visit people on the holiday who have invited you to their home.
May God bless you this season! May your Christmas be merry & bright!