I was thinking that I should write a companion blog for "Story Behind Every Body" and "Personal Stewardship ". There are people who have issues behind their poor health and fitness who have brought the topic of excuses to my mind.
There is indeed a story behind everyone's fitness or lack of fitness, obesity or anorexia, among many other things. These stories can make or break us. They can help us understand where we are and give us the determination to change, or it can break us down and adversely define us. Quite honestly it is in the choices we make.
I was getting ready to teach a small group training session, talking with two clients who were waiting. I asked them if they were ready to weigh in. They looked at each other then with grins looked down and said in unison, "No!". Now, I am smart enough to know that Mondays are bad days to weigh clients in, so I do it on Wednesday instead. These two women had been training with me since January and know what it takes to lose the weight. They bust their butts in class with HIIT, circuit, tabatta, and other tough workouts, yet are at a standstill. Excuses. That is what it boils down to. Whatever is lurking about inside is defining them. They will be stuck until they determine to change.
I can handle an explanation because it helps me understand more about a client or member and help them head the right direction. Someone who has experienced abuse sometimes hides behind excess weight or looks for comfort through food. Most will be able to tell me what is going on inside. Now I am not a mental health professional, so I don't tackle the psychology. What I do is help them understand that they have value and their health is worth working for.
Once I knew a woman who was a closet eater. She grew up with a mother who had a mental illness. Food was used both as a punishment and a reward. Her health was at risk, so she went to an extreme, but appropriate measure to become healthy again. She submitted herself to a medically monitored program with a liquid diet, counseling, and exercise. She reached her goal weight and got her health under control. Sometimes it takes a scare to get rid of excuses and seek help so one might regain control of life.
What I am unable to work with are excuses. Why? Because the person has determined that this is they way things are; why bother, they say. There is no use because of this problem. There has only been one client I told to stop wasting the money she was paying for personal training. I recommended that this individual talk with her pastor or a licensed Christian counselor to work on the base issue. When she were ready again, then I would be very happy to help her work toward health and wellness. An excuse causes people to give up and not try.
In Isaiah 64:7-9, we read that God is the Potter and we are the clay, the work of His hands. Jeremiah 18:1-6 says that God takes the clay that is marred and reworks it. He wants to take anything that hurts and damages us to rework us into something beautiful. When we hide our issues and make excuses, we don't allow God to mold us more into the image of Christ. By confronting our issues- the explanation of why we are here at this place this way in life-helps us find direction. God sends His people to help. Those helpers may be pastors, counselors, doctors, and personal trainers like me to encourage you forward.
May God bless you!